There is a cliché saying we all know: "Just forgive and forget it." Once you forgive, you don't necessarily need to forget actually. The primary action here lies in being able to forget.
“Is it possible to forget what has been done to ‘me’?” They say, “Those who haven't experienced pain cannot understand.” Yes! Everyone's pain is their own. Everyone experiences pain differently, depending on their perspectives. Pain is a relative concept. Depending on individuals, the intensity of our feelings, our perception of reality, different challenges, and even our increasing experiences over time, the magnitude of pain always varies. Despite all this... Yes... "Forgetting" is possible!
When we detach from the concept of "to me," all that remains is the action of the other person. Suddenly, you find yourself transcending your own ego, and at that moment, the actions become meaningless. The things you label as "mistake/fault/sin/evil" are the actions taken in that moment only, but every moment, hour, month, and year that you don't forget them, hold onto them tightly, and keep them alive in your memory, you continue to inflict pain upon yourself. You end up enslaving your own soul, heart, and freedom to the ego. It's like putting a worm on the trunk of a large tree that bears sweet fruits and green leaves, expecting it to gradually dry out the whole tree over time...
The meaning here isn't to not see the fault of the other person. That would be angelic or childlike innocence. The true virtue is to both see them and transcend your own self to be able to forget what has been done to ‘you’ and subsequently forgive. As you transcend your own self, you start to see things from a broader perspective. You move from loving yourself (ego self) to higher selves, and even further, to universal love.
In fact, what you forget isn't the action of the fault, it's yourself, your ego. You start shedding all the shells you've hidden within. Then, only one thing remains: Love... But it's not the love that everyone thinks, passing senselessly from mouth to mouth. It's: "being." Here, neither you nor the other exists. Here, there is unity, singularity, infinity. There's no good or bad. There's just ‘being’. In this moment, the word "forgive" loses all its meaning. There's no one or nothing left to forgive while flowing in such a Love. It comes to the point where there's no "I" either. It's such an infinite love that nothing exists that can't be forgiven within it, no matter how big the fault is. As long as there is light, darkness can never exist...
Furthermore, everything is constantly disappearing and reappearing. It's not certain that the person who committed a crime in the past will commit it again today. How do you know they haven't committed the same crime in their past lives, or, to put it more simply, not committed it ten years ago, for example? Life teaches us each moment. Those who were sinners yesterday can be saints today…
